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Months ago, my parents have agreed to grant my wish to hold the wedding ceremony at the mosque next to their house. But then they changed their minds just recently. If I didn’t mention anything about the ceremony site last night, I’m sure they wouldn’t tell me their ’secret plan’ in person in the first place.

I believe it’d be a gorgeous memory to be married in a holy place like a mosque, yet my parents argued that it would be a bothersome to walk to and from the mosque and our house. This mosque I’m talking about is only about two meters across the window of my bedroom and they talked about being bothered by the distance!

Another reason why I’m so inclined to have the mosque as the ceremony site is because it can accommodate a quite big amount of guests (in most weddings in my country, only certain people are invited to the ceremony—close neighbors, the elders in the family, and close friends—while you can invite anyone you wish for the reception, including the ones you have invited to the ceremony). I can envision that as we’re inside the mosque, I suppose that my parent’s house (the reception venue) could be ‘safe’ without any disturbance on the already-arranged décor, chairs, and stuff.

My parents suggested the ceremony to be held at our living room (where the dais—on which the bridal couple and their parents sit—will be placed), while the rest of the large spaces at the house are left for family’s private uses. Our living room isn’t so big and with the dais built, you can count how many people can really fit in there. As the consequence, guests have to sit at the front yard and won’t have access to clearly see and observe how the ceremony goes on (this would be the silliest wedding ceremony I’ve ever experienced in my life—and at my own wedding!).

Well, in my country, your wedding is your family’s event (not really yours), so no matter how hard you argue and debate, your words are not really counted *sigh*.