We thought about sending just a postcard with details of a website (that way we cut back on all the extra stuff that usually accompanies a traditional paper invitation) - not thought about e-mails! I still like the idea of just a postcard though, I know a lot of people keep this sort of thing as a sort of souvenir! Parents especially! I have kept invitations from my friends’ weddings, also family weddings I have been to.

But I definitely think a website is a great way to do things - you can have all the info about local hotels, travel info etc plus the details of the wedding. Having all that on paper does seem a waste, as it’s not something people will particularly be bothered about keeping. You can make it really personalised with pictures of the couple. I’ve also seen one where there were pictures of the whole bridal party with a little bit about who they were and so on.

And we are hoping for contributions to our honeymoon too, and I really like the idea of detailing the trip on the site and letting people buy individual ‘parts’ rather than just give money in general. It also lets people choose what they are buying, which people seem to like! Would make thank you notes more personal too, if you could include a photo taken at the eco-lodge, or on a certain train journey and so on!

When I consider our rough guest list, most of the people on it either use the internet regularly or at least have access. Those who don’t, like you say, can get a full paper invite. Thinking about it though, that would be very few people and I’d rather know that I was saving paper for the majority. If people find it impersonal then that’s their problem!! I think you should stick by your green ethics, and people should and probably will respect that!