Comments on: Marrying for money? http://ethicalweddings.com/blog/marrying-for-money ethical weddings blog Sat, 22 Nov 2008 07:30:35 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Em http://ethicalweddings.com/blog/marrying-for-money#comment-42602 Em Mon, 16 Jun 2008 11:22:56 +0000 http://ethicalweddings.com/blog/marrying-for-money#comment-42602 For us, the big day is two weeks away, and there is no doubt in my mind that even with the kind donations of family members, we'll be starting our married life broke. Pancake broke. Scraping the barrel broke. The very thought of putting off getting married for financial reasons seems like madness to me! I don't quite comprehend budgeting to fit a wedding, rather than arranging a wedding to fit a budget, even though our own wedding is somehow stretching the boundaries of budget! I can remember a wise man (a Liverpudlian plumber actually, in Brisbane), talking to me about having children. I said I wish I could start a family early, but there was no way we could ever afford it. He turned around to me and stopped what he was doing, and imparted the following advice: 'You'll never have enough money for children, but when a child comes along, you'll always find there's enough. A single child is worth a million, billion pounds.' I've never forgotten his advice, and I think it has to apply here too. If you love someone, and want to make that special commitment, then you will find the money to do it. Lachie laughed nervously when I said our wedding would cost about 5000 all up. Off the top of my head, I can think of about 4000 pounds worth of wedding-related expense. Had we been on a serious shoestring, we could have done it for about 500, obviously without wedding rings. For us, the big day is two weeks away, and there is no doubt in my mind that even with the kind donations of family members, we’ll be starting our married life broke. Pancake broke. Scraping the barrel broke. The very thought of putting off getting married for financial reasons seems like madness to me! I don’t quite comprehend budgeting to fit a wedding, rather than arranging a wedding to fit a budget, even though our own wedding is somehow stretching the boundaries of budget!

I can remember a wise man (a Liverpudlian plumber actually, in Brisbane), talking to me about having children. I said I wish I could start a family early, but there was no way we could ever afford it. He turned around to me and stopped what he was doing, and imparted the following advice: ‘You’ll never have enough money for children, but when a child comes along, you’ll always find there’s enough. A single child is worth a million, billion pounds.’ I’ve never forgotten his advice, and I think it has to apply here too. If you love someone, and want to make that special commitment, then you will find the money to do it.

Lachie laughed nervously when I said our wedding would cost about 5000 all up. Off the top of my head, I can think of about 4000 pounds worth of wedding-related expense. Had we been on a serious shoestring, we could have done it for about 500, obviously without wedding rings.

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